tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post7634070645573946560..comments2023-10-28T04:39:52.536-05:00Comments on "Hold my hand" A social worker's blog: Healing heartHold my hand: a social worker's bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06283197748791227012noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-59756837551027292712010-07-11T14:11:21.945-05:002010-07-11T14:11:21.945-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss. When I lost my mo...I'm so sorry for your loss. When I lost my mom a year and a half ago, I was able to say good by to her. She suffered, though, and for her, I think I would rather have had her go unexpectedly, and not know that death was impending. Maybe you can take some comfort in knowing that, even though it was so unexpected, your mother went the way most of us hope to go. She also knew how much you Bicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13502894081723323922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-77524163403170431062010-07-05T20:15:09.605-05:002010-07-05T20:15:09.605-05:00Dearest Doris,
I had no idea that you so recently...Dearest Doris,<br /><br />I had no idea that you so recently went through so much... But your Mom is very close, she's with you and she's holding you so tight! Where she is she can do a lot more for you than a hundred phone calls could ever accomplish. Let go of that, you can't be an angel while alive! You've done all you could and you loved your Mom. There are also those unspokenMariette VandenMunckhof-Vedderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877699174880945452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-83875126332666466002010-05-11T14:57:21.320-05:002010-05-11T14:57:21.320-05:00Doris, I wanted to stop by and meet you and thank...Doris, I wanted to stop by and meet you and thank you for following my blog....I am now following you too.<br /><br />Oh, how my heart goes out to you. I am praying that the God of ALL comforts ministers to your heart this day and brings you deep lasting sweet peace. He is Faithful!<br /><br />Sweet Blessings!<br />JackieJackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08471225291665810800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-29564796534503432272010-05-11T08:09:30.033-05:002010-05-11T08:09:30.033-05:00Doris, I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Pr...Doris, I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Prayers that you will find peace - and even joy - in the memories you have of your mom.Lynda Lee Schabhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827732317985384301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-52418574951102337332010-05-10T07:58:00.384-05:002010-05-10T07:58:00.384-05:00Hi Doris,
How my heart goes out to you. Your post ...Hi Doris,<br />How my heart goes out to you. Your post is so heart touching.Thank you so much for sharing.<br />Please forgive yourself and know that your Mom would not want you to feel this way. I know how you feel because my Mom passed when she was in her early fifties after suffering from Mutiple Sclerosis. Countless times I have found myself re-living the times I too would tell her was in a Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17162303089703252377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-55993268943007399222010-05-10T00:35:45.097-05:002010-05-10T00:35:45.097-05:00Your post really touched me.
I'm so sorry abo...Your post really touched me. <br />I'm so sorry about your mom. I know it's so hard to loose a loved one.<br />I pray God will comfort you and give you peace through this time.Jennifer Shirkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16970585847385511795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-53900465303584900652010-05-09T23:39:35.780-05:002010-05-09T23:39:35.780-05:00Mothers understand. You should not feel guilty for...Mothers understand. You should not feel guilty for what you did not do and interactions you did not have, but grateful for those you did. (My daughter's best friend from college died this morning; she had had no time to have children, but she was someone's child, and I grieve for her mother.) Life ends for all of us at some point. We should make the most of it while we can! I hope that Elizabeth Mahlouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00334700057953625321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-74409078409144580792010-05-09T08:34:49.369-05:002010-05-09T08:34:49.369-05:00I want to thank everyone for your comforting words...I want to thank everyone for your comforting words. I am feeling better today. You don't know how uplifting your messages have been. It's Mother's Day. I have decided to bake cakes for the ladies of my church. I will honor those precious ladies, in memory of my mother. Again, thank you all, and God bless.Hold my hand: a social worker's bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06283197748791227012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-88440823298654149862010-05-08T18:40:12.967-05:002010-05-08T18:40:12.967-05:00I read your post on my blog and came over. I am so...I read your post on my blog and came over. I am so sorry to read this about your mom. Although in your profession you deal with death everyday--it isn't the same as losing a family member. I am so sorry for your loss and that you are grieving now. It isn't easy at any age, I know. Please know I will be thinking of you and praying.Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-45513059474698747892010-05-08T16:23:29.036-05:002010-05-08T16:23:29.036-05:00Hi Doris -
It is one thing to see others experien...Hi Doris -<br /><br />It is one thing to see others experience mourning and quite another to go through it yourself. <br /><br />When my husband died three years ago it felt like someone ripped me in half. An acquaintance sent me a book and told me about an organization called, "GriefShare." They have support groups throughout the country. These fine people helped me regain my Susan J. Reinhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461276857852409546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-22184031944135457872010-05-08T11:26:07.172-05:002010-05-08T11:26:07.172-05:00I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Sending y...I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Sending you lots of positive vibes from across the ocean!Talli Rolandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780882465745107715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-50111663583789953032010-05-08T10:51:45.354-05:002010-05-08T10:51:45.354-05:00Doris, thank you for connecting to me. Your words...Doris, thank you for connecting to me. Your words are important and meaningful. Your mom knows/knew your love. I believe that in Heaven we are still connected to those still on Earth. So, talk to your mom. Write her a letter. Feel the love you had for each other and celebrate Mother's Day with all the joy and sorrow that are in your heart. So sorry that you are in that pit right now. Mary Aalgaardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08051735579638637382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-46970741141730712672010-05-08T09:58:20.121-05:002010-05-08T09:58:20.121-05:00Doris, thanks so much for stopping by my blog and ...Doris, thanks so much for stopping by my blog and taking time to tell me you appreciated it, despite that you are going through true and deep grief. There have been a lot of powerful things shared here. My advice would be: to take what applies right now, what heartens you, and leave the rest. Grieving is a very individual process. People are well-meaning, but if something strikes you the wrong Roxane B. Salonenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01459456545891720716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-70307359066143442422010-05-08T08:28:36.866-05:002010-05-08T08:28:36.866-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss, but your mother wo...I'm so sorry for your loss, but your mother would hate that you have this guilt. In fact it would hurt her deeply that you suffer because of her. <br /><br />I recently lost my mom, too. I wrote a tribute to her on my blog, if you are interested. She lingered before she died and I watched as she took her last breath. It took three painful weeks. <br /><br />The reason I'm telling you thisElizabeth McKenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08769477449767726442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-68027360541260093872010-05-07T23:25:54.854-05:002010-05-07T23:25:54.854-05:00…Father tells us to do our praying in the closet a...…Father tells us to do our praying in the closet and our alms in secret, that is so we don't boast or show off, and so we are true to ourselves and to God. <br /><br />Shed your guilt Doris, and be satisfied your mom was at peace with our Lord. For, really, that is all that ever mattered.<br /><br />Dry your tears, sister, and go out there in that mean world and make your mom and God pleased Cliff Harrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09990361200275647656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-2472317554131512032010-05-07T23:24:36.629-05:002010-05-07T23:24:36.629-05:00Dear Doris;
My intent with this is not to cut like...Dear Doris;<br />My intent with this is not to cut like a knife, but to comfort like a pillow.<br /><br />Don't be selfish.<br /><br />Stop for a moment and think about all it is that you know about God. <br /><br />Assuming your mom had it right with God, and I believe she did from what you said; she is with Jesus and suffers no more. Your failing to call her does not in the least harm Mom Cliff Harrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09990361200275647656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-23038152961341058172010-05-07T15:40:25.831-05:002010-05-07T15:40:25.831-05:00Oh sweetie, my heart goes out to you. I can't...Oh sweetie, my heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine how hard this Mother's Day will be for you. Please don't beat yourself up for not callin' your Mom right back, she wouldn't want you to, ya know? You will be in on my heart and in my prayers.<br /><br />God bless you and may your day be filled with warm sunny blessings!!!Nezzy (Cow Patty Surprise)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10175389676508928061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-42581804259029087312010-05-07T07:01:23.109-05:002010-05-07T07:01:23.109-05:00((((((((((((hugs))))))))) Please know I have praye...((((((((((((hugs))))))))) Please know I have prayed for you today...Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857554289543670693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-13154363098241460452010-05-07T04:34:17.956-05:002010-05-07T04:34:17.956-05:00Doris, so sorry for your loss. I imagine losing o...Doris, so sorry for your loss. I imagine losing our moms is one of the hardest things we will face in our lives. <br />Love while you can for sure. <br />Thanks for stopping by my blog and following. Looking forward to getting to know you better! <br />Have a blessed day.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02297424745531114629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5933357007596623587.post-60505628784985885712010-05-06T22:50:38.162-05:002010-05-06T22:50:38.162-05:00I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. HUGS
I...I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. HUGS<br />I almost cried reading that she called you to say she was at peace, though. I truly believe that we tell people what they'll need to hear, even if they don't know it at the time. <br /><br />I completely understand the feeling of guilt for not calling your mom back. When someone close to me was dying, I went to go see him one last timeMileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425833336328499166noreply@blogger.com